Throughout our lives, we encounter people who make a profound impact on us. Maybe it’s a parent, a friend, a coworker, a relative, or a boss. It’s someone who shapes your life, maybe with how they treat us or others, or how they live their life. Often times, their impact is unintentional on their part. Fortunately, we find ourselves in their presence, and we’re better for it.
One such group I want to highlight, worthy of special recognition are the women in our lives. I’ll call them Angels. Now, I don’t want to be accused of being sexist in any way. Angels can be male or female I suppose. But for this conversation, I’d like to focus on the female Angels.
So who are these Angels? Let me describe them. They are givers. Their first thought is how to help, how to facilitate, how to provide care and support, and how to make it easier on others. Part of what makes them click is an insatiable desire to see others succeed in whatever they do. Heard of the concept “servant leadership?” It fits them to a tee. So much of what they do goes unnoticed. It happens behind the scenes with little attention or fanfare. Quite often these Angels take steps to help with events or issues that never occur. But they were there, and they were ready, just in case. Some are spouses, some aren’t. Some are moms, some aren’t. Some work outide the home, some don’t. The common thread? Compassion, sympathy, strength, perseverance, sacrifice, and dedication are their hallmarks. Simply put, they are amazing.
It’s incredibly easy for us to simply proceed as if they weren’t there. “Everything just worked out” we say, failing to recognize or even acknowledge their efforts. Doing so is as wrong as wrong can be.
Unfortunately, these Angels can pay a price for their efforts. They can lose their identity. The very essence of what makes them who they are becomes obscured, overlooked, and taken for granted. In fact, as ugly as it seems, while we look past their contributions, we actually criticize their perceived shortcomings, the times they missed the target, or didn’t meet OUR expectations. You have to wonder, just who the hell do we think we are? They’re Angels for gods sake…and yet we’re complaining?!
As I said in my first post, this blog is generally focused on one topic, naturism. While we will cover other topics in a general sense, it’s always in relation to naturism. So what’s the link here? Simple — the body image double standard that exists in society today….something naturism stands wholeheartedly against. They’re Angels….yet they feel less than that….because of how we, society in general, condition them to feel about their bodies.
So imagine these Angels, so focused on others that they forget themselves. They forget to take time for themselves. They hear criticisms but grow deaf to compliments. They forget just how beautiful they are.
It’s a complete tragedy that so many women are incapable of seeing the beauty in their body. After years of conditioning of what “attractive” looks like on a “perfect body” they can only see flaws and shortcomings. That’s incredibly wrong.
Naturism is an outstanding means to overcome this erroneous message. Now, I’ve found that in a lot of what you read, Naturists often come across as a bit “too good to be true”, espousing complete indifference to appearance and body type. Most find that a little hard to believe. But to understand it, you once again have to break the paradigm that nudity is directly related to sexuality.
Naturists don’t approach other people, specifically other nude naturists, based on whether or not they find that person sexually attractive. They approach them as a person, a human being, tall or short, fat or skinny, whatever….. Experiencing this type of environment allows everyone, but especially women, to let go of stereotypes. They can come to see their own beauty, physical and spiritual, for what it is, rather than in comparison to some marketing driven utopia they see portrayed in society.
Simply put, we should be grateful every day for the Angels in our lives. And we should do all we can to ensure they see the beauty that is them.