Whenever I used to see sites that propose to be gay naturist or nudist sites, I always raised an eyebrow. Gay naturism? What does that mean really? I mean, I don’t see Gay Golf websites out there. (Ok, as soon as I write that there probably are some, but you get my point). Why? Because being a fan of golf, has nothing to do with your sexuality. Extending that argument then….if naturism has nothing to do with sex, then your sexuality doesn’t really have anything to do with your love of naturism. Right? Well…..generally true, maybe, for the most part.
Now, let me just say up front that I’m not a gay naturist. I don’t say that out of fear of being confused for being gay. I just say it to point out that I haven’t walked a mile in a gay naturist’s flip flops. I haven’t experienced the discrimination the LGBTQ community has endured, whether it be from the naturist community or textile. I don’t know what it’s like to be a naturist and gay. I don’t know what it’s like to come out as gay. So what do I know? Not much. This is simply an observation….an opened ended discussion…..one naturist’s thoughts.
It certainly shouldn’t be surprising that there are naturists who are gay. Nor should it be surprising that some gay naturists are interested in talking about issues, naturist or not, with people who potentially share their perspective or history. Just like there are naturist Christian groups, family naturist groups, black naturist groups, and dozens of other naturist sects, there are gay naturist groups.
I think what throws people off is the idea that the discriminator for this group is primarily their sexuality. Yes, that isn’t all there is to it. I understand that. But regardless, it’s a discussion of sexuality and that makes a lot of naturists nervous since naturists aren’t supposed to have anything to do with that! Right? I mean….that’s what everyone always says.
Traditional naturist advocates spend a great deal of energy espousing the position that naturism and sex are two separate things. One does not lead to the other. Ok….I agree. I’m nude right now. It has nothing to do with sex. I spent the morning nude. And guess what….once again, it had nothing to do with sex. But the argument can be taken to the point that it implies that naturists are completely non-sexual. Not only is that not true, it’s also hard for anyone to believe.
Naturists, gay, bi, or straight, enjoy sex as much as anyone else. Enjoying living a portion of their lives clothes free doesn’t change that. For some naturists, their enjoyment of being nude does have sexual aspects to it, despite claims to the contrary. Is it the driving force behind their naturism? No, highly unlikely. But just as it is illogical to say sex is why naturists go nude, it seems equally illogical to imply sex can have absolutely nothing to do with going nude. From my perspective, it very much depends on the individual and the circumstance.
The idea that naturists don’t look, don’t notice, don’t enjoy, don’t sometimes feel sexual when they are nude, and are completely ambivalent to the nudity of others around them doesn’t do the process of normalizing naturism and nudity any favors. Are naturists sizing each other up all the time, getting all riled up, looking for where their next orgasm will come from? Is a nude resort just a means of arranging the biggest no holds barred orgy of all time? Of course not. Not even close. In fact, just as most naturists would advocate, naturists are far less likely to behave like this. But that doesn’t mean they don’t look, admire, and enjoy others nudity. It doesn’t mean that sometimes they find their nudity or the nudity of others sexually appealing. The same is true if you are gay, straight, or anything else.
So yes, I admit it….I enjoy others nudity. I enjoy the nude human form and I enjoy seeing others nude. Yes, that is one aspect of my enjoyment of naturism, one of many. It’s not the most important. It’s not the facet I cherish most. But I don’t pretend that it doesn’t exist. If I were a gay naturist, it only makes sense that I might enjoy reading the words, thoughts, and experiences of a fellow gay naturist. I might enjoy seeing naturist photos of my own gender and I may find them sexually appealing from time to time. It makes total sense that, accordingly, I might identify as a gay naturist rather than just a naturist. This doesn’t make them any less of a naturist. In fact, it just makes them like rest of us.
So now when I come across a site or story about a gay naturist, I give it a try, just like I would any other site. And if I see a photo that denotes gay naturism, granted, that’s in the eye of the beholder, but I don’t judge. Why would I? I just see naturists. If I see a story about an LGBTQ naturist explaining their view of naturism, I read and try to understand. Maybe I’ll agree, maybe I won’t. Maybe I’ll enjoy it, maybe I won’t. But it won’t mean they author or subject is any less of a naturist.
So I view it like this — What’s another name for a gay naturist? Simple….a naturist. I’m glad to share the title “naturist”. I’m glad they have stepped out of the naturist closet. I’m glad they are standing nude in the light of day. I don’t care if they use the term gay naturist. I don’t care who they have sex with.
I’m just glad they’re naturists.