Life is full of opportunities. Some you jump at, go after, grab. Others, you take a pass, let go. Hopefully that decision is made after careful consideration. But sometimes time isn’t on your side and you have to go with a gut reaction. But when you do have time, you need to make sure your decision is based on sound reasoning, on facts, on “the important stuff”. Unfortunately, for many, decisions are often made on supposition, misconception, misunderstanding, and emotions like fear and lack of self confidence and self esteem. Those decisions can lead to the R word — regrets.
Regrets….well, they suck. Just no other way to put it. Wishing you had done something, tried something, said something different than what you did, can be hard to live with. It’s like a recurring nightmare that pops into your head every now and then to remind you — you make mistakes, your not infallible, and this one time…..you blew it. Great, thanks. Experiencing the memory of a regret leaves you hollow, again, kicking yourself for the decision you made, no matter how understandable it might be.
But it doesn’t have to be that way. The way I try to look at events like these aren’t as a regret, a moment where I blew it. But as a time where I learned a lesson in how not to do something. What’s that old quote about Edison inventing the light bulb and not having success after many attempts. “I haven’t failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work”. He didn’t regret those 10,000 times. He learned from them. Doesn’t mean he wouldn’t have liked to have had success on attempt #1. It just means he didn’t dwell on all the misses. He kept moving forward.
I’ve been very honest on my naturist evolution and my willingness to be much more open about my proclivity to nudity as a positive, enriching, thoroughly enjoyable recreational activity. But likewise, I’ve had a few misses along the way. Those misses were usually rooted in fear. Do I regret those misses? Yeah, I suppose. But once again, like Edison, I focus on what I learned and the moment I broke through….the successes.
This is a great lesson for us in our naturist lives. You may have some misses along the way. Naturist opportunities you didn’t take. Conversations you didn’t have. Nude beaches you didn’t go to. Nude hikes you didn’t hike. Clothes you left on. Should of….could of…. They don’t help us grow. But likewise, you shouldn’t ignore the past, the lessons of your life. Next time, take the opportunity. Bring up the topic. Go to the nude beach. Take the nude hike. Take off the clothes. Don’t worry about if you’re doing it right. Don’t focus on the fears. Trust. Learn the lesson.
Time is finite. Don’t waste it. Move forward.